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Sun, Mar. 19th, 2006 07:52 pm
Work and Wedding

Whee. I have my own office at work. Finally! After five and a half years. I went up today to make sure I had all my stuff, but I wasn't very productive with unpacking. Mostly I shuffled things around. I think this is because the office is going to make me insane. The walls are crooked.

Yes. They are crooked, becauwsee of how it's built. And my back has to be to the door when working on my computer, with the current desk setup. If I turn it around, the office will look even smaller. I wonder if I can take it apart or find a credenza... As it is, I pulled out the desk from the wall a bit to make something of a semblance of straightness.

I will miss my windows, as well. Maybe I can steal a fish tank from somebody, or get my own....

And in wedding-planning news, we've found two locations we really like. Of course, we really love the more expensive one. But the somewhat less expensive one is still really nice. I'm going to have to call and quiz them a bit more tomorrow morning, and if our favorite answers my questions happily (and is still available, since they were already booked for the evening) then I'll be slapping down a huge deposit.

My main gripe right now is I really did want to do a mid-afternoon wedding, because I had this vision of doing a tea: finger sandwiches, appetizers, tea and coffee, scones, etc. Unfortunately, we're going to have to have a lunch instead. And we're eyeing both the brunches and real lunches, and trying to decide the best way. Maybe I can alter some of the menus to be more finger-foody. There's an afternoon hors d'oeuvres reception at the place, too, but it really depends on what we decide to do. I feel compelled to offer a full meal if we're making somebody come to a wedding at lunch time. So... maybe we can do enough finger foods to make a meal. I still want fancy finger sandwiches, though, dammit. Wonder if they'd alter the brunch for me... omelets and waffles, pastries, a roast and finger sandwiches? Yum!

Next order of stress is picking bridesmaids. Randy wants attendants. I'd be happy with none. I have no idea who to ask. At all.

Anybody want to be a bridesmaid? (And yes, this is a halfway serious question.)

Current Mood: tired tired


Mon, Mar. 20th, 2006 02:42 am (UTC)

Traditional choices for the bride's attendants: Her sisters or cousins. His sisters or cousins. Her closest friends, either from school or from her current life situation. If he has sisters, find out whether his family puts a lot of importance on your asking them! My best friend in Nashville had to ask her fiancé's sister to be her maid of honor even though they didn't get along at all, because otherwise there would have been endless family drama.

There's supposed to be some kind of a formula for the number of attendants you have based on the number of guests you're asking, but I don't know what it is. You can probably find it in any basic etiquette book, if you care -- I didn't, and I don't think most people do these days. Also, some women are now asking close male friends to be their attendants (and vice versa); it's non-traditional, but not terribly controversial any more except with extreme conservatives.

And I would be happy to stand with you, provided that (1) it's on a date when I'm not otherwise committed and (2) you don't make me buy a dress. I've got pretty dresses in just about any color you could ask for already. :-)

Mariel Jacobs
Sat, Mar. 25th, 2006 12:38 am (UTC)

Hee. Thanks for the offer! I have a couple of ideas, I jsut need to decide. Fortunately, Randy's family is very low key. No expectations about anything. There are very few female cousins at all (like, all of three) and I'm not close to any of them, really.

I think I'm aiming to just have two. I don't want a huge bridal party, and Randy at least wants some people, so two is the compromise. I might ask his sister.

ReplyThread Parent
Mon, Mar. 20th, 2006 04:02 am (UTC)

It seems that you could do enough teatime foods to satisfy a lunch crowd, but I'm a huge afternoon tea fan. Sandwiches, quiches, pastries, soups, all those sorts of things have been served at teas I had in London. It just depends on the type of tea you have.

Okay. Now I'm craving hot tea and pastry.

Lady Pixel
Mon, Mar. 20th, 2006 04:53 am (UTC)

I'd offer to do the whole bridesmaid (or, rather, bridesmatron) thing, except that you're a wee bit distant from me. That, and I just got asked to be someone's matron of honor yesterday when she re-does her wedding for her husband's family -- which means that I'll probably be spending a small fortune on a dress I'll wear once and shoes to match. ;)

However - I'll second the female-relatives option, as well as assorted and sundry friends. You don't have to do too many - the major point is a maid of honor (or matron of honor if it's a married person), a best man, and perhaps at least one other bridesmaid/groom. You can do more or less as desired beyond those two major ones, however.

Mon, Mar. 20th, 2006 01:48 pm (UTC)

I will be moving back to Austin,TX on May 6th. Hey, I knew through most of our childhood.
I will be pregnant, but fun!!!
I wanna go!!!

Mariel Jacobs
Sat, Mar. 25th, 2006 12:40 am (UTC)

You've been on the short-list of candidates :) I am just so paranoid about feeling like I'm asking too much of people! But I would love love love to have you. (And you'd be invited regardless.)

Wedding's not until March 10 next year, so you'd have baby fun by that point.

ReplyThread Parent
Fri, Aug. 18th, 2006 05:49 pm (UTC)

a crooked office with no windows... ugh, it took me 11 years to GET windows and I amd NOT giving them back, no way, no how!

a tea sounds great!