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Wed, Oct. 3rd, 2007 09:00 pm
Wedding Vows

I'm posting these mostly because they explain why almost every single picture of the ceremony is us laughing.

Our officiant was a friend of Randy's and he did such an amazing, fun job. We had a blast. And he was absolutely hilarious. We didn't expect to laugh that much. And he wrote this fabulous ceremony based on just what he knew of us and a few questions we had to answer for him privately.

It was bad enough that our photographer told us she had a hard time getting shots (coulda fooled me!) because she was afraid she'd laugh and shake the camera.



Mawwiage!

What is marriage? In preparing for today, I really wanted to know what marriage is and what it really means. So, I took out my trusty old dictionary, and I looked up the word. It said, “Marriage is a vow between a man and a woman taken before a man of God.”

Then, I realized I had a very old dictionary, so I went and looked it up on the internet. Here’s what I found. “Marriage is a vow taken between two or more persons, often of the same species, before a holy man, shaman, witch doctor, judge or ship’s captain.”

And, I thought, “Man, it would be neat to have the title of shaman.” But, then I realized that the two definitions had something in common. They both mention the word vow. A vow is a promise that we make at a critical moment in our life. And, that is where Randy and Stacy are today. At a critical moment in their lives, when they will make a promise to each other, a vow, to spend the rest of their lives together. And, that is something very special. Something that you are all here to witness today.





Do you, Randy, take Stacy to be your beautiful wife?
Do you promise to love her and be at her side in sorrow and gladness?
To be honest with her, respect her and trust her always?
To laugh with her in joy and comfort her in sadness?
Do you promise to grow with her in love and face together life’s unexpected twists and turns?



Do you, Stacy, take Randy to be your loving husband?
Do you promise to love him and be at his side in sorrow and gladness?
To be honest with him, respect him and trust him always?
To laugh with him in joy and comfort him in sadness?
Do you promise to grow with him in love and face together life’s unexpected twists and turns?

So, now that you’ve made these vows, what did you really just promise? You promised to love. Love is easy. Love is a many-splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love. And, like the great Patricia Benatar said, “Love is a battlefield.”

So, what is marriage? Marriage is comfort. Marriage is happiness. Marriage means spending the rest of your life with your best friend. But, in order for all that to happen, it takes work.

Marriage isn’t like in the movies. Marriage isn’t like in a book. And, it certainly isn’t like in a comic. Marriage takes dedication… and devotion. It takes D&D. It takes strength, intelligence and wisdom. Other important attributes and skills.

Marriage is beautiful. It’s reading a book quickly so that she can read it, and you can both stay up all night talking about it. Marriage means sharing the Netflix queue. Marriage is playing games together. I mean W.O.W. Marriage can sometimes mean a romantic, moonlit walk on the beach, but more often than not it’s a hot night of grocery shopping.

Marriage means turning up the heat and snuggling when you really wanna’ throw back all the covers and turn on the A/C. Marriage means belonging. To be married is to always belong somewhere. Marriage is home.

Plato once said, “At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.”

What, then, would the poets say about marriage? Homer Simpson said, “For you see, marriage is a lot like an orange. First you have the skin… then sweet, sweet innards.”

All joking aside, marriage is the most solemn promise two people in love can make to each other. And, Randy and Stacy are ready to make that promise.



Stacy,
I promise to wait patiently when you’re not listening to me
Because I know that you’ll eventually notice I’m talking.
I love that you’re an unabashed geek in ways that are familiar and new.
I promise to give space to all of the things that you love
Even if it’s the last six inches on my side of the bed.
I love that you are empathetic to all the little creatures
Even if you don’t see it yourself.
I promise to always pick you first when I’m Team Captain.
I love that you can surprise me with all the things you know.
I promise to always be honest with you.
I promise to share my life, my thoughts and my heart.
I promise to stand beside you regardless of what life may throw at us.



Randy,
I love that you can surprise me with all the things you know.
I promise to always love and be fair.
I love that you can always make me laugh
Even sometimes when I really don’t want to.
I love that you are true to your beliefs
I promise to try to support them.
I promise to listen when you ramble
And patiently wait for the punch line.
I promise to take it in stride when you point out that I’m rambling.
I promise to be patient with you
Even when you’re not patient with yourself.
I promise to share my life, my thoughts and my heart.
I promise to stand beside you regardless of what life may throw at us.



Place the ring on Stacy’s finger.

Repeat after me:

May this ring forever be to you a symbol of my growing love.



Place the ring on Randy’s finger.

Repeat after me:

May this ring forever be to you a symbol of my growing love.

And now, by the power vested in me by a church on the internet, I pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride.

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missmelysse
MissMelysse
Thu, Oct. 4th, 2007 06:17 am (UTC)

Seriously, yours was the coolest wedding I've ever attended - including my own.

And Alaska sounded like a blast.


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pagawne
pagawne
Skye
Thu, Oct. 4th, 2007 07:27 am (UTC)

Congratulations. May you always remember where you put your happiness.

One word of advice, trite as it may seem; don't go to bed angry with each other.


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theal8r
theal8r
Mama Chaos
Thu, Nov. 22nd, 2007 02:41 pm (UTC)

Hi, I'm from the forum.

Gratz on your wedding! Your vows made me giggle a lot. My hub and I wrote our whole ceremony -- it was 10 minutes. His sister was later than the length of the whole damn thing *teehee*


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hiromasaki
hiromasaki
Hiro
Sat, May. 24th, 2008 06:10 pm (UTC)
Teh Awesome!

Found this through Google while trying to find vows for a Convention wedding chapel a friend of mine and I are running(and for my own wedding.)

Mind if we steal a few parts of this wholesale? We're rather impressed with it as a whole!


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